"I am the way and the truth and the life"
"If you keep my commandments, you will remain in my love, just as I have kept the Father's commandments and remain in his love"(Jn.15:10). One of my youth group children tried explaining love and called it, "when two people like each other a lot". Don't we see this understanding of love everywhere? If you stop liking someone, it's almost understood that it's probably time to cut off the friendship. No longer do we forgive one another's mistakes in an effort to reconcile and become stronger together. Now we see a high divorce rate, fickle friendships, and a lack of trust in others.
Maybe it's time we go back to the definition of love given by our Lord: "keeping my commandments". In this context love seems much more like a COMMITMENT than a nice feeling. My grandparents have gone through many tough times together when I'm sure they didn't always like each other. Yet here they are, still together, and very much in love. The struggles, in fact, made them stronger. Just as forest fires, while destructive and wild, bring life and beauty in the end, so too the struggles in friendship can unite us even more closely if we learn to forgive and stick together.